Facebook then you will know he has been going through Separation Anxiety when I drop him off. He screams hits scratches and tries to run from the classroom when I leave. It has been hard, but he is slowly getting better. I take him in early so he and the teacher can play on a special iPad they found for him to use until the bell rings for the other children to go into class, so he can settle without the other kids around. He has been doing really well.
However, it seems to go from one issue to another. Now he is settling in the mornings easily enough, he has been acting out at lunchtime in the playground. I was mortified when I got a phone call yesterday afternoon asking me to come pick him up from school, as he had clawed at another boys face, and drew blood, and he bit another little boys arm. I was shocked and my eyes almost popped out of my head as this is SO out of character for him. This is the 3rd time he has done this at school. He is a pleasant boy with a heart of gold. He very rarely hurts people and if he does it is usually only his big brother, but even then it is only in a brotherly way. They don't do 'punch on's' or anything. Just sibling scraps.
So, I went to school and had a chat with the guidance counselor. She was very helpful and understanding. She reassured me we will get through this, and he will settle into school eventually. Which I am sure he will.
However, she started to talk to me about why he might be doing these things at school if he has never done this sort or stuff at home. She wants to sit with him next week and do some tests with him, but words like ADHD were being thrown around. Even the words 'special needs' and 'Autism' were thrown in for good measure. I must admit, this freaked me the heck out! This is my little Xavey Baby we are talking about! A beautiful little boy who just wants to be with his mummy.
Now I am not saying I would be fearful or upset if it turned out he did have something a little 'off' with him. If there is anything it would be very slight. I know he will be fine with whatever diagnoses we might eventually get when we take her assessments to a GP and wherever else I am suppose to go.
I don't see this things as problems are anything, but I would like to know if there is something wrong so I can fix it, and learn to teach him the way he needs to be taught in order to make it easier for him.
So now we have started, we are on, what I am sure will be a long road to help my little boy. I don't know how to go about all this, and I am hoping I am wrong with the concerns the councilor and I both have, and this is just a phase or something. But I just wanted to share and get it out there, to get it off my chest as well. There are many mums who I am sure have been in this exact position who get what I am saying. They have survived all the stress and drama, so I will too. Anything to help my little Xavier!